- Children learn primarily through modeling, especially from their parents.
- Parents’ behaviors—how they treat others and handle situations—are closely observed by children.
- The saying “do as I say, not as I do” is ineffective because children mimic actions, not just words.
- Respect is reciprocal: showing respect to children encourages them to show respect in return.
- Parents should strive to embody the qualities and behaviors they want their children to adopt.
- Screen use is a key example: it’s inconsistent to tell children to limit device time if parents are constantly on their own phones.
Modeling Behaviors for your Kids
Children learn primarily through modeling, especially from mirroring their parents.

Nina Sand-Loud, MD, Child Development