- A therapeutic parenting strategy involves turn-taking play, where the child leads first, then the parent takes a turn leading.
- Initially, children may resist when the parent starts giving instructions (e.g., “hand me the block”), but when done with warmth and encouragement, children learn that following directions is safe and positive.
- Praise and positive reinforcement help children realize that cooperation and giving up control can feel good.
- This practice builds trust and flexibility in the parent-child relationship, teaching kids that they can both lead and follow.
- The skill transfers to friendships and school, helping children handle sharing, cooperation, and reducing anxiety-driven control behaviors.
- For anxious or strong-willed kids, this method reduces aggression and oppositional behavior by making turn-taking a positive, secure experience.
Taking Turns Builds Trust
Having children take turns leading and following with a parent helps them feel safe giving up control, learn cooperation, and develop positive social skills that carry into friendships.
James Craig, PhD, MA, Pediatric Psychiatry
