- Parenting teens is challenging, but the goal is to build strong, lasting relationships while supporting their independence.
- Teens need unconditional love and support, especially when they make mistakes or face natural consequences.
- Parents should hold teens to high expectations by setting clear rules and boundaries, while recognizing that teens will naturally push back.
- Giving teens choices and decision-making opportunities helps them build responsibility and confidence.
- For safety and health issues, firm rules are necessary, but for less critical matters (like hair color), offering freedom is appropriate.
- Inviting teens into problem-solving conversations fosters trust and helps them learn to navigate difficult situations.
- Practicing decision-making with parental support prepares teens to make wise choices in adulthood.
Teens Need Love, Limits and Choices
Parenting teens means balancing clear rules with trust and support as they gain independence.

Catherine Shubkin, MD, Pediatrics